Where do you belong? Finding Connection and Support Through Group Therapy
By Chris Woodward, MA, LCAC, KCGC-II, Director of Substance Use Services
It’s fall, and you can see them everywhere: the “Red Kingdom.” Honestly, you can see them all year round here in the Kansas City area. They wear the logo. When a person pulls on the colors of their favorite team, they feel like a part of something, a piece of the action and a willing participant in cheering on the team they choose or are born into supporting.
Fans give their time, their money and sometimes their sanity to support the success of their team. The allegiance runs deep. So much so that when someone wearing silver and black walks by, an “us versus them” response can bubble to the surface. This feeling can draw boundary lines within families, workplaces and communities.
This sense of civic pride or community can be summed up in one word: belonging. It’s the feeling that you are in the right place, your needs are being met and someone is holding space for you.
For a person working through dependency, that feeling of belonging can be found in a group, a meeting, a team or a sponsor. We need a place where others understand the situation we’re in, the feelings we’re experiencing and the thoughts, feelings and fears we need to share. This is one of the primary reasons group therapy can lead to positive outcomes for people experiencing dependency.
Let’s look at three concepts that make group therapy successful.
First: Accountability
When you’re expected to be there, people look for you. Read that again and maybe write it down.
Showing up is a big part of getting better, whether you’re working on relationships with your family, going to the gym or attending therapy. The group will ask questions about your day-to-day experiences. They care if your car won’t start, your tire is flat or your child is struggling with relationships. They might even know a good mechanic or have a recommendation for a mentor or therapist who helped their own child through a rough patch in life.
This kind of accountability in a therapeutic space can be refreshing. It can also be more constructive than putting your thoughts and fears out on social media, hoping for responses from strangers you might only see once or twice a year.
Second: Shared Experiences
Most groups form around a common interest or goal. For example, we may need to work on a particular part of a problem, share similar thoughts, feelings or faith, cheer for the same team or enjoy the same artist.
Support groups and therapy groups are much the same. We’re working through similar life challenges, including cravings, triggers, risky situations, money issues, gambling, gaming, substance use or misuse.
When we sit together, listen and share what we’ve experienced and what we’re going through, we learn about one another. We discover that we’re not so different from our neighbors, co-workers or grandparents. We’re all going through something and looking for answers.
And unlike AI, we have a person sitting across from us who cares about our outcome and, in some cases, has traveled this road before us. They may have stumbled into the same cracks we’re trying to avoid, and their experience can help us get back up or navigate the road to recovery with fewer setbacks.
We can share our stories with people who understand what it’s like to endure a cold night of craving or the frustration of feeling like everything we touch falls apart.
Third: Belonging
We find a place to belong, a place that feels like home, among others who share a similar goal: to become better versions of ourselves for our own sake and for the sake of others.
For a person experiencing dependency, the road to recovery isn’t easy. The people who share our blood and DNA might not understand our struggles or circumstances. But a stranger who has felt the same dependency in their body, mind and soul might become a safe harbor for our thoughts and feelings.
There is something powerful about being understood by a group of people who have been where you are. That understanding can bring peace to the soul.
When we find this place of belonging, we can begin the work of putting our lives back in the order we want them to be. A group can help us do that. Members can give us space to grow, offer support and hold hope for the changes we’re working toward. As we move away from chaos, we can begin to take charge of our own thoughts, feelings and choices.
What If It Didn’t Work for You?
I know there are haters everywhere, and one of you might be reading this and saying, “It didn’t work for me,” or “That’s OK for some people, but it’s not for me.”
I understand. People have been hurt by groups, family members and friends — even by well-meaning people who thought they were helping. Sometimes, the people around us simply don’t understand what we’re going through.
However, it’s possible that the group or community you tried wasn’t your place of belonging. I encourage you to try again. Open the door to self-reflection and ask yourself, What am I missing? What could make my life better?
Try a group, a book club, an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting or a therapy group. Explore different spaces and give yourself the opportunity to find people who understand you and support your growth.
Finding your place of belonging could be the next step in your recovery.
HPC holds group therapy every Wednesday from 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. To learn more, please call us at 913-648-2266.

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